Embracing Change

If nothing ever changed, there'd be no butterflies.
  ~Author Unknown

Some of you may have wondered where I have been the last several months.  Well, I have been "embracing change"!  We have been joyously celebrating the birth of our new baby, Jacob.  We are blessed to have three beautiful children - ages 4, 2, and now 2 months.  Whew...yes, we have been embracing change.  At times we have felt like change has been embracing us!  I have been inspired to write this newsletter on this topic - you can imagine why.

For 9 months, I had many people tell me that we were crazy to be having three kids in today's times.  The cost to raise them, the amount of stress, being pulled in all directions, and "the change from 2 to 3 is a doozy" comment oozed out of the mouths of those much more experienced than I.  "With 3 you have run out of arms"...."Your life will never be the same"    Was I a bit scared?  I will admit it - a lot.  I was afraid of "this big change" that was about to turn my life upside down and inside out.  

So, then the beautiful day came.  September 4, 2003...our little boy Jacob Daniel came into this world, and it couldn't have been more joyous.  It was as wonderful as I had imagined it to be, he was healthy and peaceful and loved.  We were blissful, beaming, and in awe.  After a few days in the hospital we packed up our little family and our new bundle of perfection and headed home.  Ahhh...life is good.

Then we pulled into the driveway.  Would it be an understatement to say that chaos hit?  Nope. In the tornado of our lives swirled two older children adjusting to the new baby, a house buried under a heap of clutter, two parents that had not slept, in well, weeks it seemed.  Colic set in.   We are feeling sad, frustrated, tired, and weepy to say the least. 

Although we happily had taken on all of this stress - for we now have this perfect little boy that has come into our  life, and it's worth every tear - we started to agree with all of our more experienced friends and family - this change is indeed a doozy...and all of those warnings were coming true.  We are not "embracing change".  Change has been definitely embracing us.  

I was driving down our road one day, I think I was going to Target just to "get out" for awhile.  I remember feeling totally within myself.  My thoughts and emotions were focused on the stress of the day - I was oblivious to the my surroundings. I am in the midst of my purest gunk,  driving on automatic pilot.  Somehow, I was distracted - and when I looked around to broaden my perspective, my breath was taken away by the beauty before me.  The sky was on fire with the blaze of autumn.  I was surrounded by it.  I was in awe of the beauty, and in the beauty of the change.  

In that moment, I went from chaos to clarity.  I stopped spinning for a moment when I was blessed with that beauty - and it was like a ray of light fell upon me.  Here was the ah ha that had been waiting to be noticed.   My negative fear of the change, and my resistance to it had attracted it into my life.  It can sneak right up on you.   I had taken on the consciousness of the masses - and as we all well know, what you focus on grows.  I had used the power of deliberate creation and the law of attraction to create a wonderful pregnancy and birth experience, but let myself be sucked into the dominant thought that change is a hard thing, and an uncontrollable thing. That is what I was getting, because it's what I was creating through my own thought and energetic vibration.  

I soaked up the beauty around me that day, and thought - look at this beautiful change.  This change represents my life right now.  I get to create my own experience.  I get to embrace the change in my life like I am embracing this beauty right now.  Who would resist this beauty, this change?  The changing of the season is not hard...it is effortless, joyous, natural, and gorgeous.  We just expect it to be that way.  

Life can be like that too....effortless, joyous, natural and gorgeous - even in the midst of change.  Expect it to be that way, like you expect the leaves to turn in the fall.   So, I am focusing on creating my own experience by changing my pattern of thought and vibration.  Three is easy....

Great Ways to Embrace Change

The challenge: Ask yourself...
Am I resistant to change? 
Is that resistance blocking the flow of goodness and prosperity in my life? 
Is any resistance to change serving me?

1.  Know that all is well - it really is.  You can tap into well being anytime you choose to, by just holding the thought that all is well.  You can change the direction of your life, your experience, and your future by merely holding that simple thought.

2.  Know that you do have control over change, even if you don't think you do.  It's easy to buy into mass consciousness, but know that change is only what you make it, or how you create it.   You can make it positive or negative.  Focus on what you want to see in your experience, so you will attract more of what you want and less of what you don't want.  We have a tendency to feel fearful of change,  and then mis-create because our thought is not focused on what we want...but on what we don't want.  Then when we create what we fear, we say we don't have control of life or our experiences.  But, we do. Envision your life experiences as you would like them to be.

3.  Embrace the thought that change is easy, and joyful, and effortless.  When you find yourself in a situation that feels a bit uncomfortable, assess your feelings, assess your thoughts - and then reframe them.  Instead of saying, " I can't handle this...or I hate changes" say, "I can handle it....or things are getting better little by little....or we had a better day today...  I found myself reframing our chaos with these words..."we are finding our groove" .

4.  Remember that nothing is more important than feeling good.  If you find yourself feeling negative emotion, that is your cue that you are mis-creating.  Reach for thoughts that make you feel good - and from that space you will  have unlimited possibilities creating the life that you want.

5.  Appreciate the fact that you have change in your life...without it there would be no growth!  If you close the door on change in your life you close the door on prosperity.

6.  Let go.  Change is just change.

7.  Know how the Law of Attraction,  works in your life, and what it means.   It says, what you focus on grows.  It says you are a powerful magnet, and you pull into your experience that which you vibrate on an energetic level.  

All the best to you as you create the kind of change in your life that your heart truly desires!